Loyalty or self-worth: The situationship dilemma

This one's for the ladies, so if there are any guys reading this, I guess you can get a women's perspective of situationships....

First of all, let's break down this "situationship" thing up... Urban Dictionary describes a situationship as any problematic relationship characterized by one or more unresolved, interpersonal conflicts, usually confused with dating. A situationship is kinda like a relationship, but more of a situation, as some say it's a " bond without the title". Friends with benefits are in a situationship. People that are a 'thing' are in a situationship.

One might ask, why would someone even want to be in a situationship. Wellllll, I'm not saying I'm speaking from experience..... but, sometimes you don't always want the responsibilities that come with a relationship, or you just want to be single and do what you want whenever & however. Technically it's just easier, especially if you're not ready to be fully committed.

When I saw this tweet, it made me think, "Was I really putting myself and my feelings on the line for someone who at the end of the day didn't even have to be faithful to me?" "Am I putting in too much time and effort in something/someone I won't even get an equal return on?" "Is my belief that he'll come around , stronger than my belief that I can do better?"

In my opinion, if I'm being courted or as y'all might say "chased", I feel like I shouldn't have to go above and beyond. I mean at the end of the day, YOU tried to talk to me, so why should I have to text you first, make plans, or go out of my way to talk to or see you. If it were the opposite, and I slid in a guy's DMs or got his number from a friend, best believe I'm going to do my due diligence. I don't like putting myself out there, so if I do I might as well do it right. But y'all, y'all be PLAAAAYING. As a woman, I rather you be up front with me, tell me what you're really trying to do, it's just easier for both of us.

So where does loyalty and self worth come in? Why is it that as women, we feel like we have to stay with someone we feel isn't putting in the needed effort to keep things interesting? Honestly, I can't even say, I guess some women choose to look past the now and look to the future. But how long do you let his "potential" determine how long you're going to stick around. What if his potential never develops, and you end up left with the same man you started with? I mean in my opinion, when you get into a relationship there's this mutual , perhaps unspoken, understanding that you all will help each other to grow, and you all will encourage each other to do and be better than you were before. If that's not what is being brought to the relationship then your self worth is being put to the test. Can you really love yourself, and allow yourself to be treated less than you feel you deserve? NAAAHHHHH, but hey, that's just me!

If you're in a situationship, rather male or female, I wan't you to speak up and ask your man or woman...